As an oraculist I see that younger women have a hard time knowing whether or not a man wants to date seriously. Here are some tips!

1. They are very vague about their schedule
They are annoyingly vague about their schedule. Here are some key phrases they always use:

“I'm really busy with my work right now. We will meet in a few days when things are calmer.”
“Sorry I've been gone for a while. Things have been crazy around here. What have you been up to?"
“Sorry, I hadn't seen your text until now. How are you?"
Okay, all of us, at some point in our lives, forget to check our phone and answer. I, for example, already stopped answering my friends and even my family because I was too busy, and I only remembered hours later. However, there is a big difference between when someone does it all the time and almost never having a real-time dedication with you.

2. They say it's nothing serious
He constantly reiterates how casual your relationship is. He always says phrases like, “I'm not sure I'm ready for a relationship right now. Give me some time.” And while you always make it clear that you want a serious relationship, he doesn't break up with you to spare your hurt feelings, instead he'll tie you together with promises of a relationship that happens "maybe one day".

Even the relatively innocent words like “boyfriend” and “girlfriend” seem like something giant to him. He may simply avoid talking about his relationship status, or he may offer an excuse for not wanting to use these labels.

3. Always slow
He goes on to say he wants to "take things slow" as an excuse. Sure, being cautious in a new relationship is a perfectly normal (and emotionally healthy!) thing, but you have to ask yourself if your relationship is moving anywhere. Men who are cautious and advance slowly, but advance at some point. If he is not going to commit to you, he will put obstacles in the way of any progress in the relationship. And when you see it, it's been 6 months, a year and nothing of him dating seriously!

4. Everything leads to sex
He loves sex. Okay, who doesn't love sex? But in this case, your relationship is pretty much all about sex. Even encounters that at first seem special seem to be a means to an end (and to be clear, that end is sex).

If he always steers things in a sexual direction, he probably doesn't want a serious long-term relationship. And that's the real "problem" here: if he wants something too casual and you're hoping for something more serious, neither of you will get what you want. There's nothing wrong with him wanting a casual relationship, but he needs to be upfront with you about it and you need to be consistent about what you want in your life. If you don't want to be used, walk away.

5. He dodges
He shies away from anything that could be considered a relationship milestone. He doesn't want to meet his parents or friends. He will never leave a toothbrush at his house or visit you at work. He also won't want your stuff in his house and will always return it to you in case you accidentally forget something. He doesn't want to do anything that suggests the relationship is making progress because, in his mind, there is no relationship. Some men take the woman to his house, introduce their parents, friends, but even so, he may want to save money with dinners and outings to have sex on a motorcycle. After all, at his house, everything is free.

6. You don't know anything about past relationships
He never, under any circumstances, mentions his ex-girlfriends. Of course, it would be in bad taste to talk about them all the time, but there is zero mention of relationships.He is not very interested in your life and your problems.

7. Relationship without friends and family
Someone who sees a future with you will fit you into their inner circle and that means introducing you to family and friends and getting serious. If he doesn't want to meet your friends or family or vice versa, it's simply because he doesn't expect you to be around long enough to ensure you meet. If he really wanted to get to know you, one of the best ways is through friends and family.

While it doesn't have to be right away, if you've been dating for a while, your partner should be excited to meet your friends and family. Also, if you are not included in the activities he does with people close to him, you need to question why this is happening.

8. He doesn't make plans for the future with you
A person who wants to commit to you is not afraid to talk about the future. Does he invite you to a wedding in six months? Any talk about the holidays? If he's not talking about the future, he doesn't see a future with you.

No man has ever planned a Caribbean vacation with me, but in every serious relationship I've had we've planned weekend trips, we've made plans for the next few months' holidays and for friends' weddings that are months away.

9. You don't hear from him for days
He's a sweetheart for a few days and then disappears, almost like a ghost for a week. Don't text or make a phone call. When he comes back, he acts like nothing happened.

If he turns into a ghost without making any attempt to pick up the phone or make plans, it's because he's trying to keep some distance between you. That doesn't mean he should be calling every day, but he should at least be checking in to see how you're doing, even if he's swamped with work or has other things going on.

10. He suddenly lost interest
Finally, one of the biggest signs that he has a commitment phobia is that he suddenly loses interest. It's not something that happens over time; It's almost overnight. He'll be too busy to see you, he'll make excuses to cancel your plans, and he'll take hours to respond to his texts (if he does). A guy who suddenly and for no apparent reason loses interest in you is afraid of commitment; he doesn't want to be with a woman for long.

What to do if he won't commit to you?
value yourself
If after all this he doesn't change his own behavior, if you realize he's not going to commit to you, get out of that relationship.

In conclusion, if a man loves you, he will want to be with you, invest in you, and be proud to be by your side. They feel responsible and committed to their relationship. Don't waste time with someone who doesn't add anything to your life and only deceives you. Cherish yourself! Have self-esteem! The time you spend trying to mend that relationship is valuable time that could be spent with someone else who truly deserves you or alone and in peace.